I believe when someone ends something on the phone—somatically our bodies don’t get it.
We have a kind and loving conversation about getting together before I go to Canada—but the entire time my physical body is processing the fact that there are no hugs—no kissing—no touch “This is the body I know!” it is yelling.
I leave and get into my Jeep and collapse into tears—deep waves of grief. My body has begun to grieve—it’s finally caught up.
I have 2 calls that afternoon in my calendar—one starting in 20 minutes.
I write 2 emails to the people in my calendar and express that their time and energy is important to me and that I respect agreements, them and my word but that I need to hold space for my body to grieve.
This is called adjusting an agreement.
Not breaking an agreement.
Adjusting is lovingly saying, “I know we had this agreement and I respect and honour you and your time—but, this is what I really need right now _____, can we reschedule?” All of my appointments wrote back compassionately and lovingly.
This also means “not pushing through” in days of my cycle where I know I need rest.